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Originally Posted by BrentRichards
Isn't that a GREAT film? I can't tell you how many times I've seen it. Yes, there are some racy scenes, but its so tremendously tender at times, too. Often makes me cry, especially since I know the feeling of falling for a straight best friend and being crushed that they couldn't be physically affectionate (and more) the way I longed for... destroyed more than one best friendship like that in my younger days (and yet, somehow, I could still believe I wasn't REALLY gay ... go figure.
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You know, even the racier scenes don't really bother me. (But then, I tend to be very open towards such things.) I mean, it isn't demeaning and pornographic (in the sense that pornos are usually all about the fake physicality and little about the emotional or relationship side), it's actually very beautiful and sensual. (And, okay, yes. Hot.)
And I felt the same pain... my first love was my mostly-straight best friend. At the time, had we had any concept of what homosexuality even *was* (trust me, when I say I grew up sheltered, I mean it) we might have been each others' first lovers. We used to lie in bed, tangled up in each other, and lament that one of us wasn't a boy. But it never even occurred to us to kiss. Now, years later, I identify as bisexual and she identifies as very, very straight. It still makes me a little sad.
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Yeah, probably not. A wonderful straight ally woman I know once asked me (hopefully, I think) ... so, you're not bi, are you? The honest answer is: not even a little bit. I'm a Kinsey 6 ... make that a 7! And I'm also definitely not a girl ... I'm not even one of those gay guys who had all female friends and understands women so well, and ... My friends have usually been almost exclusively male, and I'm every bit as bad as the average neanderthal when it comes to "understanding" women. Huh?
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Hahaha! That's great.
I am definitely smack dab in the middle of the Kinsey scale, which has been a source of frustration for one reason or another for years... mostly because when I was struggling with the "morality" of homosexuality, it bothered me that I wasn't only attracted to guys, and then once I got over that, I dealt with the same issues Zerbie has been talking about, of being afraid to come out as bi to the GLBT community for fear of being rejected, but also not able to lie about the fact that I'm not lesbian, as I'm not *solely* (or even mostly) attracted to women. It's split right down the middle.