I asked her one day, "What are you going to do if one day the guy you love refuses to let you come home to see us ( me and my wife) or if you have kids, and he refuses to let your children come to see us?" She said, "Well first of all, when I start to date a guy, it just has to be alright that you are gay. It it ain't, it just doesn't happen between us. Mom there is just no point in going with anyone who doesn't love my mom and who she loves. " I said, "Good for you. I am glad you aren't willing to throw us under the bus." She said, "Why would I? Mom, nobody cares anymore who's gay and who isn't." I wish it were true, especially in the state legislatures. Maybe when the kids get grown and able to vote, we could see a real change in the marriage laws and some real change in equality.