genetics and family
I'm assuming your interest is in part with you and CJ having a child together. one thought is to artificially inseminate with a mixture of both semen and not doing genetic testing after so the child has equal chance of being one of yours. Then just accept him or her as both of yours.
I find that my gay family of genetically unrelated persons is more real to me for the fact that we are connected by love that is more close to being unconditional. This family that I have been involved in it's creation has made it possible for me to start forgiving trespasses of my genetic family members.
Love is what matters most, not genetics. We are all connected to one another. Love will make you aware of it. Fear will make you blind to it.
Love and affirmation,
Forrester Tongpa Nyi (formerly Ash Phoenix, faeries evolve! )
When you come to know that your entitlement to joy is a given, All that remains is the exploration of the many different ways to let it in