Originally Posted by antiochian
I found out a couple days ago what my dorm roomie thinks about gays. The subject came up because we were talking about the waning popularity of cowboy movies, and then he said, "Well, except for that Brokeback Mountain, and people just have to see that because there are queers on it." Yet he claimed to have gay friends (we've all heard that one!)
I have left numerous clues as to my sexuality from books lying around to raimbow jewelry galore (apparently the boy ain't too quick on the uptake).
I felt angry and afraid at the same time when he was saying what he did. Afraid that if he knew about me, there would be big time problems and I don't need any more of those, thank you. And angry at myself for allowing him to judge and dehumanize me.
Other than that, he's very nice and we get along. After May, when the semester ends, I won't have to live with him anymore. So how does one deal with living with homophobes? Is it best to keep one's sexuality under wraps for reasons of self-preservation, or does one reveal the secret and keep his or her integrity even if it costs dearly? Is it a bad thing to not tell him I'm gay? The subject may never even come up again, so is it worth it?
Their are queers on it? (does he mean their are queers in it or maybe it is about queers?)
I think you are dealing with what might not be the brightest bulb but I don't see him causing you any problems. In fact he might be embarrassed about the statement when you come out to him. I left my brother lots of clues not all intentional and he was surprised. I've been out to my parents for years and have had conversations around him but he just couldn't see through the fog of the suggestion that someone is straight because they aren't so gay a rainbow follows them... Toucan Sam hummm....
Also as has been pointed out he may just be protesting too much.