It's about what's most comfortable for YOU. By the time I made it to college, I was starting to be done with the whole closet thing. Like, VERY done. My freshman year roommate...the VERY first thing I learned about him and his family was that they were all republicans and Bush supporters. I overheard (not when I was actually in the room, but on my way out) him watching the debates and calling Kerry a fag. Eventually, we ended up smoking outside together (nasty habit, and I don't anymore) and I just started telling him about my boy troubles. (There had been drama with his girlfriend that I was involved in by virtue of her calling the room at 2 am when I had class early the next day). And, he did end up being a lot better with it than I thought he was. The other side of it, though, is that I decided that if anyone was going to be uncomfortable, it was him. Cause, I'm me and I like me and eff him if he can't deal with that. In my case, we ended up getting along a lot better once it was out there. In your case, I think it depends a lot about your boundaries. If he's making you uncomfortable regularly, or you find yourself hiding things around him, or not bringing dates home or whatever because he's there, that's problematic. If it's just a nonissue, and you don't feel that you're not being yourself in your home, then maybe you just let it go until may (or possibly until it comes up again, if it does). I think the general resolution in another thread was that it's the same with the questions he might have if you do come out: it's about your personal boundaries. I'm a ridiculously open person with most of my friends, so most of the questions people are going to ask me, I don't mind answering. If they're based on assumptions that aren't necessarily true (even if they are true for me), I make sure to point that out, but everyone (in relation to anything, not just the gay) needs to be able to tell someone "that's a personal question that you really don't need to know the answer to".
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