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Originally Posted by chuck2pastor
My name is Chuck and I've been a United Methodist pastor for 25 years. I'm married with two wonderful daughters. I'm scared out of my mind to be writing on this forum, but I have been struggling for so long, that I need to get this out.
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Don't let fear get the best of you, friend, but just keep in mind what yu may need to do to keep yourself safe. Our dear friend, u-dog, who has already replied would probably be a great resource on how to participate openly in discussion, while safeguarding your identity and details. It can be done, and I think quite easily.
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I am gay, and I am glad to say that I do have some close friends that I am out to; I'd like to be more open, but the consequences of that are too much for me to handle -- right now.
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All in good time. This is a darn good place to work through the thought process, and wrestle out the faith, social and family issues that go along with your pilgrimage. Like any good pilgrimage, this will be more empowering if you take your time, and savor and reflect on each step.
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Right now, I feel like I'm going off the deep end. I just pray this isn't the biggest mistake I've ever made in my life, and somehow I believe that just the opposite is going to prove to be the case.
Peace,
Chuck
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Many of us, Chuck, spend varying amounts of time in the deep end, and sometimes go under for counts of one or two. (Of course, some of us also like it there - but that's another story.)
Check in with u-dog about safely negotiating the terrain while maintaining anonymity for the time being, since you are in such very similar circumstances. I, and I think others, will try to be cognizant of (and warn you if we see) posts that may be too revealing. The "edit" function is always your friend. Just an added thought - DO NOT necessarily judge my way of engaging as any kind of model. I am a minister, but I am not in your position, since I'm straight. Oh, yeah, that - and I'm a little nuts.
In particular, this is a safe place - a great place to wrestle out life issues of all kinds with people who are respectful and loving.
I am looking forward to engaging with you - and I'm particularly happy to have another clergy on board.
Andy