Originally Posted by u-dog
While there have been periods during which Polly and I stayed together mostly for the sake of the kids (which I don't think is NECESSARILY a bad reason to stay together) we are currently together because we choose to be for ourselves. We continue to work to deepen our relationship and to find ways to be authentically intimate with each other.
have you and your wife given up on your marriage at this point? Do you plan to separate when the girls leave home? Is your wife fundamentally homophobic? Where have the girls gotten this homophobic attitude?
Chuck, you don't need to answer any of these questions if you don't feel safe or ready.
My wife is indeed fundamentally homophobic; if there's a gay character in a movie or TV show, she'll refer to him as a fruit or queer. Again and again, she has said that homosexuality is unnatural, just nor right and against the Bible. We can't have a conversation on the subject. And this is where I believe my girls get their homophobia from -- their mother. And some Sunday School teachers.
I don't want to bash my wie-- she is wonderful in a lot of other ways.
We have no definite plans to separate when the girls leave home, it's not a done deal.
I am not sure how long I can remain married to someone who despises a very important part of who I am.