Originally Posted by keltic63
Your wife knows of your attraction to men, but feels compelled to take every opportunity to make anti-gay, homophobic remarks. She does this knowing that you have those attractions. This sounds like abuse to me. ...Should the marriage dissolve, she may use your guilt about your orientation to extort you and force you to give up much more than you should. Don't fall for the emotional blackmail, although, from what you've written, it seems to be happening already.
I want to thank you and others who have written telling me what I already knew, but didn't want to admit to myself, that my wife has been emotionally abusing me. I am in a bad marriage, one that I should leave. I'll need a good lawyer and good advice from other folks so that I don't fall prey to her abuse in the (rather likely) event of divorce.
I am so glad I found this forum.