Planning to talk
I am planning to talk to my wife about my being gay and how that impacts our future relationship. I have outlined what I am going to say to her so that I am taking full responsibility and not blaming her in any way, and I plan to tell her explicitly that it's not her fault that I'm gay. She already knows I am attracted to men, but I had told her I was bisexual -- because I thought, somehow that was less of a blow to her than to think of me as exclusively gay. In my situation, I don't see how I can remain married to her. It's hard for me to admit that to myself, to write it in this forum and it will be even harder to tell my wife. But I cannot put this off much longer.