Originally Posted by chuck2pastor
I am planning to talk to my wife about my being gay and how that impacts our future relationship. I have outlined what I am going to say to her so that I am taking full responsibility and not blaming her in any way, and I plan to tell her explicitly that it's not her fault that I'm gay. She already knows I am attracted to men, but I had told her I was bisexual -- because I thought, somehow that was less of a blow to her than to think of me as exclusively gay. In my situation, I don't see how I can remain married to her. It's hard for me to admit that to myself, to write it in this forum and it will be even harder to tell my wife. But I cannot put this off much longer.
I am sorry. I know what you contemplate is scary, and that's sad. It is sad that being honest should be reason for fear. I understand, I have been there. I am paying for my honesty still (we come from similar situations). If I had to do it over again, I would still be honest. The cost of living a lie is much higher than the cost of honesty.
my best to you.