Hmmmm, am I being a naysayer here?
I would suggest to Chuck (and am suggesting it!) that you have at the very least *some*thing in mind to turn to in the event that, despite your expectation, perhaps your wife *does* out you at work.
Did you not earlier in the thread mention that you thought some of her behavior was abusive? (If I'm confusing you with another poster please forgive the error!!
) If so, it might not be outside the realm of possibility for her to take an action in order to be controlling, shaming, or punitive. Statistics show that men who take steps to dissolve or leave relationships with abusive women are most likely to be targeted for punitive or vengeful actions during the time of leaving.
She *might* mayyyyybe take action against you in anger --- I'm not trying to judge your wife's character, I have no idea who either of you are and could not begin to do so. But from hearing what I've heard from you (if I haven't confused you with someone else), I do think you'd be wise to have something in the works as a professional 'safety' plan just in case
the worst happens.
Then, once you have a safety plan sketched out, go and do as Scotty says and be fearless.
Like packing a first aid kit for a long hiking trip, have your safety sketched out in case you need it, then forget about it and concentrate on the adventure ahead.