I am so sorry they called you that. But I can totally relate. I came out last year to my two sisters, who now, all of a sudden won't let me near their children. It is as if they are afraid that by being around me that their kids will catch my "disease". It is just ludicrous! Completely and totally stupid ignorance and fear. Again, don't get me to preaching. I am still the same person I was only now I am not lying about who I am. I am an authentic person because I am not ashamed of who I love. I am not ashamed for the way I feel and if that is not the person THEY want me to be, then I am really sorry. But I am not about to go around living my life according to their standards.
I hope you get to see your kids for Christmas. Mine have to go with their father tomorrow. Merry Christmas!!!