Originally Posted by paul
Rats. You are way to cute for me to disagree with Troy, sigh.
I feel pretty safe here at soulforce, so I'll let you in on a secret. I identify as "gay." I've come out, at huge expense, as "gay." But I sometimes fear I might be "bisexual." That's bisexual, not ambisextrous. I say "fear" because I have never had an opportunity for a ltr to actually see for myself. I do know I'm mostly gay, the evidence is all there, but there's enough to make me question also. I actually fear being bisexual because many see bisexual people as people who have a choice. For a bisexual to choose is like saying: "which to you want to keep, your right arm or your left arm."
As Zerbie is trying to explain, it isn't like you have this wonderful choice and you can go either way, rather, you feel a loss if you don't have both. Just like you would have a real void if you were forced to be with a woman, a bisexual person has a very real void if they don't have both.
I think it is harder to be bisexual than it is to be gay in some respects.
You're totally reading my mind.
Lately, I've been saying I'm bi-curious. I know I'm mostly gay, but an itsy bit bi...
I'm very hesitant to explore the bisexuality aspect because I am really in touch with how overwhelmingly gay... (I know, I know)... I am. Would it be fair/right/ethical to explore that with a woman when I KNOW that I am much
more powerfully/romantically/sexually drawn to men?
However, I've been reading....
My latest book is on bisexual spirituality called "Blessed Bi Spirit." It's fascinating, but of 30 or so chapters only three are written by men, so I'm looking for more balanced bi books.
Interesting stuff, huh?