(Trying not to type in all capital letters. . . . )
It is the straight community that has the hubris (and irrationality) to pronounce that gay kids are straight. The straight community recruits gay people all the time, not just youngsters.
Everyone I have yet encountered in the gay community with whom I have had such a conversation is FAR MORE hesitant about having young people label their sexuality or come out than the youngsters themselves often are. What one usually hears from the gay community is something like: Don't be in a hurry to make a conclusion about who you are. If you're gay, we love you. If you're straight, we love you.
It's not an orientation that matters. It is the heart of the person that matters. That heart which must be respected, validated, and sadly all too often, protected.
Never linger too long with the ignorant,
throw stones at their talk.
Walk only with the lovers,
the mirror of the soul gets rusty when
dipped in muddy water.