Hello and welcome. Don't let it get you down, we are here for you.
Many of us have lost family because of who we love. I too have lost several members. The really funny part of it is the 3 people that have problems with me being a lesbian, are all in my fathers side( his mother, him and my borther)who out of 15 cousins...11 are LGBT!.
You hang in there, we have learned to chose our own family. I rebuilt mine, with my wifes supportive parents, my mom and aunt, a mish mash of friends and those in the community itself.
Zerbie is in AZ, but she is working on Proposition 8 I believe. There are those of us there with you. I am sure when she gets time she will contact you or post here. Maybe you are close enough to help out with it. Anyhow, feel free to IM me is you would like to chat.