Glad you came back and that you are finding your way out of that tight closet. Not small matter that.
Others have said it well: taking each step as you are comfortable is a good thing. No need to rush matters. And the more support you have before coming out to your family, the better.
And yes- working on your own happiness, joy and career, is what will sustain you- perhaps more than anything. I can attest to that.
I think they call it having a life. 
