You're just down the pike from where I live. The Twin Cities gay community has a lot to offer, in the way of people and support. We have a number of different ways in which the gay community and the churches are involved together.
We have the Resource Center for Churches,
That has offices of most denominations in the building, and connections to just about everybody. There are more progressive churches than I can count. If and when you can connect with the religious community in the Cities, I imagine that the resources that you will find may be a bit overpowering, at first.
This will, of course, not be of immediate value in connecting with your family, but it could be a powerful positive experience and resource in it's own way.
In any case, I hope that your journey is ultimately a successful one for you.
And I would hope that you could experience my church, and MCC at some time.
As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, no one can make you feel bad about yourself without your permission. We at SoulForce support you.
Peace and Love, Bruce Chris