We all carry around chains of fundamentalism in our sexual nature, and coming out as gay or lesbian is especially tough, because we automatically hold ourselves to these archaic standards. I was married to a man when I began an affair (I guess you would call it that) with my now wife. I admit I felt like I committed adultery and whether I did or didn't, I confessed it and also confessed the time after my divorce when she and I weren't married, but living together and having sex. I felt legitimate when we legalized our relationship in Canada last year. All that to say, it is very freeing to read yours and your pastors viewpoints on sex between gays and lesbians. Like I said having to live in a straight world it is hard to know what the "rules" are. But I like what you said we must temper all that we do with agape love. Very good rule and very good logic and simple. I think if we treat those we love like Christ loved the church, then we have glorified Him and that is all that matters. Great job, Nate. Good luck in seminary and God be with you.