I echo Daniel's thoughts re: coming out to your mom.
The next question is, what can you and your partner do to find a place of your own in the near future? I understand that economics and needing a place to live are important. living honestly is also important. what steps can you take to
a) move out of the house that your mother owns?
b) come out to your family with minimal emotional damage?
what would happen if your mother found out right now, and decided to evict you from your residence? I'm just thinking about what could happen should mom decided to surprise you with a visit......
Tolerate one another, just as I have tolerated you.- Jesus Christ?