Sorry to hear that loving someone has become so difficult, Juls. What does your partner think about this? What happens on holidays and such?
Practically speaking, what if Mom made you move out of the house? Between you and your gf's incomes, how problematic would that be? Have you talked about this?
Sorry so many of these have been questions back at you, but we don't really know your specific situation.
edit: I agree with Daniel about the word lifestyle. Erase it from your vocabulary.
edit again: When I came out, I made (to me) a very important decision that I wasn't going to people and asking their permission to be gay, but that I was telling them that I AM gay. By informing people instead of asking permission, you go to them from a position of strength. If they're going to reject you, they have to start on their own power, rather than by answering a question you gave them, and that's a lot harder for them to do.
While some may not like it (my mother still hasn't acknowledged it since that day), they have one less tool in their toolbox. And more importantly, you're in control of your own life.
Last edited by Matt Algren; 09-29-2008 at 06:21 PM.