I was thinking about that concept yesterday. The relationship isn't like that. the various jobs don't fall along gender lines, so there is more equality in the relationship. If a person were given bits of info about our relationship, they might assume something that isn't quite true:
I am a good cook and I like to cook, so I do most of the cooking.
Scott does a lot of the heavy duty moving, lifting, etc. he just tore down a chicken coop on his parents' property.
from that, one might figure I'm the "woman" and he's the "man." That's not quite true though, because Scott is a much better housekeeper than I am, and I have a much higher income. So with those bits of info, you could totally reverse the idea of who fills which role.
It seems that a better way to think of it is to get rid of the notion of traditional gender roles. We're certainly not fulfilling our gender roles in the traditional hetero way, so no need to assume them in our relationships. We share the household chores; and we work to our strengths. As far as the bedroom is concerned, it's no one's business and I will certainly let people know that in a clear way, if I'm ever asked. Besides, there are so many fun ways to pleasure each other, intercourse itself becomes one of the choices that may or may not happen. (at least it works that way for us!) sorry if that's tmi