For those of you who know me, and those of you who know me better, I tend to get so inclusively focused that I avoid these types of discussions almost completely. But, okay, I'll bite. In my last two relationships which have both been long term (so far), I have tended to take on the more effeminate role in the relationship, the skirts, the makeup, the heels, the wife. My partner(s) have been more on the masculine side, as far as dress, hobbies/interests- both have liked physical labor, fixing things, building things, etc. However, I have empowered myself as the usually typical girly-girl (describing myself only) to learn how to fix things, build things, work outdoors, etc. and it feels great! I try to combat the gender roles as much as possible, and it actually feels really good when I meet a fellow girly girl lesbian because I feel pleasantly surprised!!! I have to work on my own "gaydar" type assumptions about others as well, I am a work in progress. Peace all!!!! Vanessa
