Maybe I didn't express my opinion well enough... I meant to express that there aren't any real roles in our relationship either because it's just not one of those kind of relationships
Yes, sbonser, you're the man! 
I think it's funny how many people have told me "You don't look like a lesbian". Gee, I didn't know we had a uniform... Where would we even order those?
I think it's fun - male or female - to flip stereotypical gender roles. I still think it's fun sometimes (as much as I love being a woman) to dress up like a guy just to throw people off. I don't do it as much now as I used to when I was younger, but it was fun to hang out with my male friends and try to pass as "one of the guys".
As far as gender roles in the bedroom, you guys
, I'm not sure I care to venture too far into that subject except to say that nobody needs to know details as long as everyone's happy.