Originally Posted by awediot
Good luck and God bless... At times I am grateful for no kids and at others, it is the only regret I have being gay... oh well...
I've no idea the legalities or mindsets involved other than what you've shared, but how might it play out to (ulp) to take the bull by the horns, blow up and ease that tension and inform the ex of the impending letter? At least the "why didn't you tell me during our last phone calls?" extra added accusation would be eliminated....
maybe talking out my elbow, but a thought
that might be a good idea, but my experience with her tells me that it's not. about 10 days ago when we had our child support review, she had been informed ahead of time that she would most likely lose $150/month because our 18yo daughter would no longer qualify for child support. That is exactly what happened. However, it did not stop the ex from displaying anger in front of the kids when she got home. My 17yo son informed me that his aunt, my ex-SIL, talked to him on the phone and was surprised that she was angry because my ex had been told what to expect. As it turns out, I'm not the only one who sees her behaviors as unreasonable. Routine letters from the lawyers during the course of the divorce were viewed as being calculated by me to cause her as much pain and suffering as possible. She called me on Christmas Eve to say "thank you for the gift' which was a letter from her lawyer stating that we had a court date scheduled in the event that a settlement was not reached before that date. We already had the settlement, the court date was merely a formality. But she was irate and very accusatory. Intuition is telling me to wait, let her get the letter, then deal with her anger as it comes at me.
of course, my other thought about the situation is that she might try even harder to keep my youngest away from me until we actually go to court.