It's very frustrating (and possibly very naive of me to find it so frustrating) that there haven't really been any gay rights victories on their own merits. Few have stood up for any queer people because queer people are people and deserve rights; the things we win on we win on because it's good for straight people.
No one cared about AIDS until suddenly straight people were getting it too. The military won't rescind the ban because it's stupid, arbitrary, and serves no purpose: it'll happen because the military needs all the bodies it can get. I've seen arguments about marriage rights that argue for same sex marriage on the basis of EVERYTHING but loving same sex romantic couples (if someone wanted to raise a child with their brother, those rights would help that family; if two old friends want to share a household, if two heterosexual individuals want property rights etc. with someone of the same sex, they should be available).
Don't get me wrong: I'll take what I can get. I understand (really!) that the rights are important, and that it shouldn't bother me too much WHY people are giving them out, and I also fully understand that for many of these things, there are multiple VERY GOOD reasons outside of the most overt to me. But, really? It's not enough that we're people too?