I agree with you Alecto. I'll take what we can get, for now, but until we are accepted in society the same as the next (straight) person, it will feel somewhat hollow.
The group I'm volunteering right now is making strides to open dialogue and educate church congregations about gay people. We are involved in teaching an awesome course, Living Lovingly, meant to discuss GLBTQI and marriage equality. The objective is to change minds and hearts so if/when the issue comes up in CA again, people will vote with us because it's the right thing to do. A lot of the reaction is based upon fear which is created and fed by ignorance. We must get to the problem, ignorance, instead of glossing over and addressing the symptoms (or not addressing anything at all).
It's going to be difficult and challenging work, but I think well worth it in the end. The side benefit is, when the issue of marriage equality is back on the ballot, we'll have enough support to reach our specific goal for equality. It's one step towards full equality. It would be nice if we could just wake up one day and have it all, but it's going to take grass roots work one issue at a time to actually change minds and hearts.
Meantime, I'll celebrate DADT's death when it happens, hopefully that will come soon.
"Struggle is a never ending process. Freedom is never really won, you earn it and win it in every generation."
Coretta Scott King