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Old 01-24-2009, 02:05 PM
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Default from victim to victimizer?

Interesting article. It indicates that the young man saw himself as being victimized. Intimating that the church wanted to keep him from talking about the affair.

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Boyd said the church reached a legal settlement to pay the man for counseling and college tuition, with one condition being that none of the parties involved discuss the matter publicly.

Boyd said a Colorado Springs TV station reached him Thursday to say the young man was planning to provide a detailed report of his relationship with Haggard to the station. Boyd said the church preferred to keep the matter private, but it was the man's decision to go public.
Guess we will have to wait to see what over developments there are. As it is, I wonder what has happened with this young man. Is he gay? Is he out, and self-accepting?

Or has he gone the way of Exodus?

As for Haggard, this puts him in something of a different light. He's gone from being the self-proclaimed victim to a victimizer.

I don't care who you are. It's a breach of ethics to have sex with those you are- essentially- under one's pastoral care. The power difference in the relationship can only bring harm. As noted in the article...

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David Clohessy, national director of SNAP, the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests — which has largely focused on the Catholic sexual abuse scandal but also speaks out on cases involving Protestant clergy — said the new disclosures about Haggard are more disturbing because they involves a church volunteer.

"Technically, legally, they were both adults," Clohessy said. "Psychologically and emotionally, Haggard was dramatically more powerful. ... By definition, any sexual contact between a congregant and minister is inherently abusive and manipulative."
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