I am a gay man married to a transman.
The previous writers are correct: Sexual orientation and gender identity, while intricately intertwined, are distinct parts of an individual's identity.
Sexual orientation is about the gender of the person you are attracted to.
Gender identity is about the gender you claim for yourself.
When you can transform the war and violence in yourself, then you can truly begin to help others find peace. Thich Nhat Hanh