Originally Posted by Daniel
I hear you. Coming out all over again wouldn't be fun, to put it mildly.
I was thinking how some might respond, that is, those who still have an issue with your being gay. And I can imagine one response might be this.
You don't believe in God because you know in your heart that God doesn't approve of you being gay!
I thought of that, too. Or in a related vein, "You are gay BECAUSE you've rejected God."
Nasty stuff, of course. The kind of stuff that is designed to put one on the defensive. The remedy? Like the saying goes, I think a good offense is the best defense. But you are right, this takes a great deal of energy, time and commitment.
But you know what? At this time of your life, I don't see that you have to be responsible for how people react- or not. You really don't have to be the educator.
I like the idea of your standing still and letting others do the running around.
Exactly. A strong adult, a 57-year old adult at that, doesn't have to answer to mom and dad, aunts and uncles, and siblings.
Rick, you are your own person. If the family responds to your authenticity (if you go there) by 'running around,' let them. Keep your cool. Stay level and don't get sucked in to their drama. You've earned it.