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Originally Posted by pnggrad79
I just wrote a diatribe against straight men, and erased it all. I just sound like a bitter lesbian, and I don't want to come across as a man hater. I just need help seeing a different side of straight men.
I'm more than happy to show off introduce you to my husband, or would be if you were in town. 
He's aMAZing. 
That said, I wind up doing the housework, but it's fair because I'm home so much more than he is. The one time I left town for a weekend without hubby, I came back to find he had cleaned and shined the house while I had been gone.
He is also the sweetest, smartest, funnest, cutest man in the world. When I think about what I have, omg, I swoon just thinking about him. 
Maybe it is too much testosterone that I have the problem with. Maybe it is that I like being with a woman. She smells better,
 OMG!! ROFL!
I have even had straight women look at my lesbian relationship and tell me they wish they had what I have. They don't want a lesbian relationship, just a relationship where they like who they have married. I just don't see that in a lot of straight marriages. Maybe I am too jaded and cynical in my old age....  |
That's so sad. Relationships are so important. It's critical to have a loving home that you like going home to, and feeling supported by the one you share it with.
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Originally Posted by Jennifer5
There are a few straight men who are the exception. I hope to find one for myself someday. I think my generation is a little better about having equal partnerships, but we'll see.
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Yes, there are. It took me a long time to clue in to how many wonderful straight men there are. Or perhaps, came a point whereafter I suddenly (finally) started meeting them. If you can find just one straight guy who really has it together, his guy friends are likely to also be good people who have their act together. The men hubby is friends with are all wonderful, intelligent, empathetic people also, the gay ones and the straight ones, no distinction.
I think the key is meeting just a couple of people with their act together and high expectations of themselves -- they will likely associate with others who have like values.
Communicating, and knowing yourself and your partner, those are the essential things. You have to know what is a deal-breaker and what you can negotiate. If you want kids and s/he absolutely does not, break up. Otherwise, either you will be heartbroken wanting kids or they will resent having their kids. You have to be compatible enough religiously/philosophically that whether your religious practice or lack thereof is the same or not, you each respect and support your partner in its practice. Things like that can be deal-breakers.
Who does the laundry and who cooks can be negotiated, unless you absolutely can't figure out how to boil water or open a TV dinner.
