Originally Posted by Jennifer5
Daniel, I agree that the piece of paper is important because of the rights that come with it. So are you saying that for you, the only reason to get married... instead of just being with a person is the legal rights?
...because that's kind of where I'm at. That commitment can happen without a marriage. You can love a person and promise to spend the rest of your life with him/her and if you really do love him/her you can make it work. In fact, Daniel, I think you're one incredible example of that!
So, given that you have made your relationship work, without a legal marriage. Is marriage just signing on for equal rights?
U-dog puts it nicely.
I started from a different perspective- a practical and legal one.
Did I get married only for the rights? That's an interesting question. For the fact is that, even with my Canadian piece of paper, I have precious few rights. And that was the second 'marriage'. The first time was a ceremony with no legal significance whatsoever.
The Buddhist ceremony that my husband and I participated in was - simply put- about honoring and celebrating the love and commitment we were making to one another.