Originally Posted by u-dog
Polly and I had this same experience of suddenly knowing what we hadn't known we didn't know (ya know?) People sometimes say "we love each other ... we don't need a piece of paper" But its not about the piece of paper. Its about becoming a corporate entity together (in addition to your individual selves) that is recognized, honored, and celebrated by your family, your church, your community, the IRS. This is hard to get my mind around enough to articulate but ... its like "marriage" is Love fully planted in context. Its like marriage is about your relationship to each other ... but ALSO about the relationship of your relationship to all of your other relationships. (I should go back to bed
All of which is why MARRIAGE RIGHTS ARE SO IMPORTANT ESSENTIAL
TO FULL EQUALITY.
Nah, that makes perfect sense and is well-said.
It IS about the relationship of the couples' relationship to the rest of humanity.
I have often said that it is the refusal to recognize gay relationships that is both symptomatic and enforcing of heterocentrist psycho-social abuse against gay individuals (coupled or not.) To share integrally in society is denied them. And I still wonder when the world, generally, is going to 'get it' that as long as - and to the extent that - it denies gay people, it is losing much that those people have to contribute. That it's to the benefit of everyone when we embrace the gifts and skills of those we are rejecting (the military firing Arabic translators being one prominent example of such loss).
Now I'm the one babbling.