If I can't be a Christian and be gay, which is more important? If I have to choose, which do I choose?
First off, Squirt, you don't choose
to be gay, you just are. You can
choose what you do with your life.
There are an awful lot of folks who are living in sin -- straight and gay. You don't have to choose sin. You can choose life instead. Once you choose life, you will still be gay. It's part of who you are, part of the person God made you.
Your longing for a life mate and a family are all part of the human experience, whether you're gay or straight. It's normal to wonder who that person is going to be and when will she appear.
As far as being Christian, search your heart and soul. If Christ is at the center of your spirituality, you're probably Christian already. You don't need approbation from a bunch of outsiders, but it is kinda nice to find a group of Christians who support the whole you, including the gay you. A lot of us here at Soulforce consider ourselves Christian, and we support you 100 percent.
A personal aside: I've long thought that he choose us, rather than the other way around.
Second aside: I thank God daily that he made me gay. I'll try to unpack what that means to me if you want.