Holy smokes! I'm so sorry that gay Americans are still having to fight so hard for equal rights in marriage. I remember there was a lot of fussing here in Canada when gay marriage was passed in 2003. My brother-in-law was arguing that it would destroy the family. I just looked at him and asked, "Why, are you planning to go and marry a man right away?" At least it shut him up.
I have another related question. Can gay couples adopt children in the USA? Or is that also a state law? I think child services in Canada is provincial jurisdiction, but when they added "sexual orientation" to the Canadian charter of rights, it was no longer legal for any province to discriminate on that basis for any reason. So, now there are many gay couples with children.