Originally Posted by tehillah05
Moral of the story: my dad told me they still love me; if I marry a woman they won't be at the ceremony...no plans for that anyway; I'm still a member of the family...and it's my life. I guess.....
I'm so sorry that your family reacted that way. My mother was very supportive, my father was upset and told me that 'gay sex is gross' and all that. He refused to come to my marriage ceremony, my brother and grandmother didn't come either. It really hurt at first, but you know who did come? My mom, my wifes parents, all of them, our friends and some of my co-workers. My aunt also came and said "I don't understand it, but if your happy that's all I wanted for you, to be happy, and I like Ellie, she's a wonderful woman, you could do worse." I found out who mattered and who did not.
Now, a year later, my father has come down off his high horse and met my wife and introduced his girlfriend to her, my grandmother has come over one time to meet her and my brother has actually shown a little tolerance. I let go and let God and it was a relief. I realized that sometimes, you have to wait for them to catch up and sometimes you lose people in the process. It's painful but hang in there and give them time to accept, maybe they will surprise you.