I have been a smoker since I was 19 and I desperately wanted to quit. All attempts at cold turkey have been unsuccessful. I had spoken to the doctor in the past about meds to help quit but he had been reluctant to give them to me because of my past problems with depression. I have not had a major depressive episode in over six years and I contribute that to having come out to my kids and accepting myself and loving myself for who God made me. So this is what prompted me to come out to him and I did. His response was similar to what you wrote Zerbie. He said in this day and age for anyone to believe that our sexuality isn't hardwired at birth is just stupid. He said he had never chosen to be straight and he knows that gays don't choose to be gay. He thanked me for trusting him and also told me that over the past five years he could sense that I was really at peace with myself. He gave em Chantix to help me quit smoking but because the depression is in my record, I have to call him every week to let him know that I am okay and that I am doing well with it. He knows that I have a support group with my kids and brother that will tell me if I am starting to get off the wall, but I really believe those days are behind me. He shook my hand after the appointment and grasped my arm with his other hand as to reassure me that what I told him made no difference to him. It was a wonderful experience. Thanks Zerbie and Ben for your support.