I think that one reason sex and pornography take such a huge place in gay magazines is the shock value. Society has said "what you are is shocking and disgraceful" and the gay community has responded by saying "you think that's shocking, then take a look at this." In other words, the gay community has capitolized on their outsider status. Look at Gay Pride celebrations: Do we see the PFLAG groups, or Reconciling Ministry Network groups in the media coverage of pride events? What about our lgbt community that trots out the stereotypes for the media?
Can it be said that there are a few "media elite" who are deciding that this is what the lgbt community wants? Does it truly represent who we are? I think we are truly a diverse group, but you couldn't tell that by the representative publications to the gay consumers.