Originally Posted by Dash
I am one who generally thinks people need to get over sex...get over the body. Sex is beautiful...the body is beautiful. But then, I've had very little sex in my life. And also, my own good father (conservative right-winger that he is...God bless him) spoke to me numerous times as I was growing up saying, "even pornography can be beautiful"--a point that I find to be poignantly true sometimes.
Dash- I think as you do, that people need to get over the whole notion of sex. Its is beautiful, or at least, can be when heart is involved.
Porn, while it initiated my inexperienced mind to a repertoire of manuevers, didn't incorporate matters of the heart for the most part, though I did, as you mentioned, see that the interlocking bodies of men was beautiful. That was a revelation. That said, this isn't the reason why most of us watch it! I've come to thing that porn, in its more darker aspects, can initiate a gay man to his Shadow, something that is talked about in Jungian psychology, which needs integration, not rejection.
And though I have been in a long-lived relationship (some have compared gay years to dog years- that would make it 14 X 7 = 98
), I've observed that all the issues and challenges associated with sex do not lessen in the slightest. In fact, they are heightened in the cauldron of relationship. It's not simply about who does what to whom and if one getting one's 'needs' met. That's just the surface of things. I think sex can shake us to the core. The trantics among us certainly think so. Though not having a great deal of experience in that area, I would venture the thought: the energy of sex has to keep flowing or it makes us radioactive.