Originally Posted by Rick336
This guy is 23 years old. He's an adult. I guess I'm curious as to why he doesn't just leave the ex-gay bullshit and go live with his boyfriend in Wisconsin until he can get a job. I mean, If my family started screaming Bible nonsense at me when I was 23 and demanding that I get therapy, I would have simply moved out and gotten my own place.
My message to him is...LEAVE!! Just give them the finger and walk out. Nobody is forcing you to be there.
Get some balls bud. If you want people to respect you, you've got to respect yourself.
Growing up in the 70's Part of my later teen years a general understanding that went along with graduation, applying to college, and college scholarships and working for spending money was also that when I turned 18 I was expected to start living on my own. This was not cruel or unloving. It was the same expectation as any in growing up.
"Keep putting money away, you will need it to get started once you turn 18" was a common reminder my mother gave me.
Now to be fair, I had a full grant/scholarship to attend college and my folks helped quite a bit, but I provided fro 90% of my needs after 18. I also was more than ready to get out of my father's oppressive homophobic household atmosphere.
Aside from that, my parents prepared me to be able to function as an adult. AS a young teenager I was taught how to manage a checking account , pump gas, turn on breakers, buy food, etc. None of these things taught to me were nearly as cruel as writing term papers for English
My point is I feel that the common mistake parents today make is not teaching their children to be able to function without them. Part of the parental investment is thinking about the skills your child will need to thrive.