Originally Posted by dsdrane
I love you, J5, for humoring and engaging me, but it's obviously a non-starter (with anyone else).
That said, I do think "Truth" is a touchy subject for some here -- especially those who have had "Truth" preached AT them. I didn't have that experience, so I don't know what it's like to have to grapple with that. In fact, I've had the opposite experience: I've preached MY Truth to others, especially my family. As a result, many in my family thought thoughts they had never thought before. They did so out of Love, but they recognized that I was speaking to them out of Truth.
I remember especially telling my mother once -- a woman I love deeply and forever: if you make me choose between you and my boyfriend, you will lose. I didn't say this out of Love; I said it out of Truth.
And...you know what? It worked out ok. Way, way better than ok.
Hun, I don't just humor people, I am sincerely interested.
Truth is a very touchy subject for people. You're lucky if you've never been preached at regarding that. I have a very liberal family, so I have not had to struggle too much with those unfortunate truths at home. Although, there is always some kind of truth about growing up that you aren't going to like.
There's this: "The truth is whatever I tell people it is."
Had he said 'my
truth...' that statement would have had a completely different meaning.
When you told your mother that you would choose your bf over her, was that truth over love? I think it was still love more than anything? But perhaps it was a good combination of love and truth?
How do we state the truth, without becoming insensitive? I be sensitive, without overlooking the truth?
Recently there was a conflict, where I was incredibly upset about the entire situation. There were a lot of people involved. The truth in the situation was out in the open. One person, chose to be incredibly blunt and basically said to just get over it. Another person, chose to talk through the entire thing with me, but was still very forward about getting over it. The next person, just talked to me and explained certain things in a reasonable way that I was able to relate to. The last person, listened to me, talked to me, supported me on certain things and told me I was unreasonable regarding others.
The point I'm trying to make is that they all got the same basic point across, and they did it incredibly clearly at that. The first one had me in tears many times though. The last two helped me to feel safe while I was learning about something scary. Truth, is always critical, but there are so many ways to approach it.