Bye Bye, I don't think BC was trying to imply that you didn't bathe. I think he was replying to my post about 'gamey men'.
In reguards to bisexuality: Just because you are Bi does not mean you can't have a good and fufilling relationship with your husband. You don't have to have a girl on the side. All that bisexuality implies is that you are capable of finding emotional and physical fufillment with either sex. It does not mean you have to date both, that you have to sleep with both or you that you ever have or ever will.
I really struggled when I came out, I was married over 15 years and finally could not take being closeted any longer. I was unsure if I was Lesbian or Bi. I knew I had had crushes on women and desired them, but I had always dated men and had sex with them. The community around here was not very supportive of Bi women and many lesbians would not even look at me twice because I stated that I thought I was Bi. Some were really mean about it also. I think many Bi people on this site can attest to the way some of the community receives Bi people. I ended up going to several years of counciling and desided that I am actually
mostly lesbian. Notice I say mostly lesbian, not "I'm a lesbian". I was told by my therapist that 10% of the population is completely str8, 10% gay, and the other 80% fall on a continum of less or more str8 to gay. That actually means that sexuality is a very fluid thing. It also means there is no consistant way to identify Bisexual and gay people other than they are attracted to their own sex. How's that for confusing? It confused me!
Also, I came to understand myself as wanting emotional and physical intimacy with women, feeling fufilled by them, but I still notice a good looking, sexy man.
I hope your husband is supportive of your feelings. It may help you to go to a therapist for a few visits and even read up on some books. There are many good books by and for Bisexual people out there. If you hit Barnes and Nobles sites and also Bing or Google Bisexual, you can find some really good chat groups. I love Butch-Femme.com. It's open to everyone that is gay. They have a great Bi section to post in there also.
In order to accept you being Bi, it will take time and realizing that the lable means nothing. If you are happy and love your husband, then it does not matter if you are attracted to women. You chose him and you love him. You found the one you needed to find.
Much Metta