I've known of too many people who DO know us, and just don't connect why they're not ok with marriage. Like, the reasons they give don't make sense, and it feels like they MUST be trying not to see that. Or maybe I'm just hardcore projecting experiences with my Dad.
It's like people who start a sentance with "I'm not racist / homophobic, but..." They literally don't see that what they're saying IS inherently racist or homophobic or whatever, but they recognize other people will see it that way. How they don't see it that way is the part I will just never understand.