Originally Posted by Daniel
I think we are saying the same thing.
As for giving people credit, I don't think most people are aware of their reactions to gay people at all- not consciously anyway- those with no awareness at all are in the 'recoil' camp. I think they are clueless until they actually meet and talk and become relatively close with a member of our wonderful tribe. It's only then that the moment of choice arrives and awareness can ripen.
I guess I think it matters because these are people who go out and vote- mindlessly.
I had a similar discussion with a few people on an un-moderated Usenet newsgroup where I proposed that some people couldn't seem to get past the creepy factor. It got really graphic. I asked how much of their time and lives were spent in the pursuit of sex. There are other things in life.
I wound up with a few that said they would like to get together for a beer sometime but weren't sure why. A few got more virulent. I don't have to say much any more. My allies seem willing to step up when I'm attacked. There are also a few atheists around to keep me humble.