Honestly, these people you're talking to clearly don't understand. Sexuality can't be neatly boxed up into one of three boxes, "Straight" "Gay" and "Bi." They're neglecting all the complexities that make it so confusing for a person who doesn't fit into a category. Some days, for example, I wonder if I maybe identify as a straight male (Not an entirely uncommon phenomenon). Men who find out I'm with a woman like to say "hey that's cool, I'm a lesbian too" and in so doing trivialize all the men who really do identify as lesbians. People seem to neglect that there's a whole spectrum out there, and there's all kinds of funky hormonal stuff going on too. ESPECIALLY when you're at precisely the age you're at. Tell those people you don't know what you are, so how could they? If you pay attention to your own thoughts and feelings, you'll figure it out.
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