Welcome to the forums. I appreciate what you have to say. If we are condemned, it is people who condemn us; it is not God. I think God is very patient with us. He loves us despite our shortcomings and values us even if the church does not.
That verse you quoted from Ephesians is a favorite of mine. What a directive that is, to forgive others as Christ has forgiven us. Since Christ forgives us unconditionally and without limit so should we do for others... not an easy job!
I am fortunate that I have found am affirming, loving place within Christianity. I always feel for those who have not had that blessing in their lives.
Please make your voice heard and share more of your thoughts with us.
Tu Amigo, Pablo
For I am convinced that neither life nor death...neither the present nor the future nor anything in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39