hi everyone, thanks for your responses! I'm blessed to have a very supportive church where I live, with a strong LGBT contingent. in fact, I have so much support in my friends, coworkers, and city at large that it's easy for me to forget what a different world my parents live in. your responses (especially yours, celestial_rain) and a few conversations I've had over the past week or so have nudged me closer to telling my parents. I know they'd throw the Bible at me, and I need to learn how to respond to their claims (btw, I've seen For the Bible Tells Me So and loved it). but for now, I look for peace in what my priest recently told me (a sentiment echoed by tymejumper): we are all on a journey. we don't know when or where it will take us, but life is a journey, not a destination.