Hi Daysing, and welcome. You must be a newcomer? Seems to me this woman has a very dark and dreary idea of who God is. More of a slaveholder than a parent. She's obviously driven by fear. I've found that fear-driven spirituality is lethal--it was for me, anyway. I felt depressed and never good enough. I had to keep doing more to save my soul. And more, and more. More prayer, more fasting, more penance, more more more. A miserable way to live. Regarding her "Changed" orientation, I don't know her and can't read her mind, but I'd say she's either lying or deluded. You can paint white and black stripes on a horse, but that doesn't make it a zebra.
I also want to gently correct your assumption that all here are followers of Christ. Many are Christian, but some of us are not, myself included.
"And though I may not know the answers, I can finally say I am free. And if the questions led me here, then I am who I was born to be." --Susan Boyle
"If all fools could fly, the sun would be eclipsed forever." --Dutch proverb