Originally Posted by ireland
Yeah thats what she said, so i guess the only way forward for me is to put and end to it and see what comes from that, iv tried everything else. This is going to be the hardest thing, i can fight and fight but to walk away is the killer.
She said to me the other day 'when m with you i can be 'me' the rest of the time im pretending to be someone else' that broke my heart as i totally understand how that feels. Iv been there and i know that once you set yourself free and be yourself its the best feeling in the world.
And it sounds like she is making a terrible choice. That's what I hear you saying. She's made the choice to stay closeted, or at least try to (you might point out to her that her parents probably have some glimmer of intuition about this), and that is causing you both a great deal of pain.
Fundi thinking can also encompass the thinking that 'someone is going to save me', and she may have this going on in the recesses of her mind. But the practical truth of the matter in this kind of situation is that she is going to have to save herself. You can't do that for her. Yes. You can fight, but only so much.