First thanks for all the support for my letter! It took me a while to write it and I prayed about it a lot and now it's in God's hands. I really appreciate all the encouraging feedback though and I'll be sure to let you know if I hear anything from the church...
Andy, I don't know of churches that are gay friendly, that's something I've been wondering about too (I live in California). You should post your question as a main thread in the forum - I'm sure you'd get a lot of great/knowledgable responses!