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Originally Posted by chadp81
I still wonder if I should move to a bigger city or not, you don't really hear about many gay people coming out in my area, and we don't even have straight bars here, its a Dry county, no clubs either... we have Bingo.. lol Ive thought about the online stuff but like I said, I want a relationship not meaningless sex. I want my first time to be special... Lame, I know...
Wow, meeting "Mr.Right" in the grocery line is kinda cool to think about! I mean, that would be awesome, be struck stupid by love while paying for groceries... I feel stupid.. lol, I keep smiling while I think about that. This gives me some hope!
Thanks for telling me that, I'll look into it, but I don't plan on doing anything unless I can play it safe, I don't wanna take any risks. I do know how to use a condom, Ive worn one before, just never used it for intercourse.
I do wanna come out FOR ME, but is it wrong for me to do it if it hurts those closest to me, does that make me selfish? I really like the letter idea, I'll give that some thought...
Back to health matters for a sex: HPV is very common. However, 4 strains that can lead to anal cancer can be transmitted even with condom use (the virus lives in the skin), so the vaccine is a good thing to be getting. It's not cheap! (may be hard to get insurance to pay for it) But it is recently available for gay men. My doc recommends that all young gay men should be getting it.
How is that being yourself hurts someone else? That is the thing to think about. The only thing that hurts is the belief that being gay is somehow bad, awful, sick and sinful. And that is not the case at all.
Those closest to you will be able to really get to know you- the real you- if they choose to. And that is a good thing. However, if they react badly that is no reflection on you. Rather, it is a reflection of their ignorance and misguided beliefs.